| Dr. Marian Stansbury | ||
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"Creating Healthy Relationships is the Heart of the Matter" |
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Imago Relationship Training |
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What
is Imago? As we grow up, we have disappointments, hurts and unmet needs, as well as lots of good stuff. Even in the happiest of families, parents are not perfect, cannot be there for us every moment, understand exactly what we need, or provide precisely what will make us fell safe and happy every time. These childhood deficiencies are part of the fabric from which we become adults. We build defenses and compensate for what was missing, while searching for someone who will provide it. Better late than never. |
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| THE LIVING ROOM | ||
| HOME | But something strange happens. Our unconscious has kept very good track of every impression and negative thought we had about those who took care of us during our early childhood, and has translated that information into how we think the person who cares about us should behave. So while we're scouting around for the person who matches our "top ten things I want in a mate" test we took in the magazine at the dentist's office, our unconscious mind is looking for someone just like mom and dad (or grandma, or aunt and uncle or whoever raised us.) And usually, the unconscious mind is what makes the final selection. | |
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| Imago | The intention that the unconscious mind has in making this choice is that if you find someone just like the people who raised you, this time they will be able to fill those needs and wants that were missed the first time around and everything will be wonderful. Unfortunately, because that partner is so much like them, he or she will make the same mistakes, leave the same wants and needs unmet, and the cycle begins again. |
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| Relationships | What you need to understand is that this is supposed to happen. As soon as we realize what's going on, we can begin to rebuild our relationship based on communication, trust, respect, mutual giving and love. Each partner stretches to fill those needs the other has brought to the relationship. Each feels loved, understood and appreciated. That's what you learn how to do in Imago Relationship Training. | |
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